The premise of speed dating is simple. You go to a room with an equal amount of men and women. The men make their way from table to table. You both chat for a set amount of time. A buzzer goes off and you’re on to the next person. At the end of the night, you exchange numbers with those you think you’re compatible with.
Here are a few tips to really get the most out of your experience.
- Dress for Success
First impressions are important. You want to appear casually classy. Which means don’t wear baggy clothes or come dressed as if you’re going to a gala. You want people to feel at ease around you, but not so comfortable that they don’t feel as if they need to impress you. This might be a speed date, but it’s still a date. Which means you’re in impress mode. Not to suggest that this is a job interview, but it kind of is. You want to appear somewhere in the middle of flirtatious and bored.
- Pay Attention to the Other Person
So the first person sitting opposite you is the epitome of what you don’t want in a partner. That doesn’t mean you should whip out your phone and start scanning Facebook. Not only is that rude and makes you out to be a pretentious jerk, but you are in a room full of other people. People notice other people’s actions. If you act like a jerk, no one else is going to want to sit at your table. You might miss out on a great opportunity. Be polite, be engaged, and you just might learn something new.
- Be Open to Openness
The whole point of speed dating is to meet as many people you otherwise wouldn’t have met. It’s a step out of your comfort zone. You might think you’re looking for one type of partner, but it could be someone completely different that you wind up falling for at one of these events. Remain open for that possibility. Don’t box yourself in. Opposites attract isn’t a cliché for no reason. It is a fact.
- Have Fun
The premise of speed dating is absurd and everyone who participates knows that. It’s the outcomes of this process that have a real impact on your dating life. Don’t take this thing too seriously. The chances that you’ll find your life-long partner are pretty slim, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a great time.
Your attitude will say a lot about the success of this event. If you go there with a sour attitude, what’s the point? No one wants to be around a grumpy person. Have a couple drinks to loosen yourself up. Even if you don’t find a match, you might meet some pretty great new friends.
If you’re still confused on how all this works, there is no shame in checking out an online guide to adult dating. No one will know but you and your browser history.